The discrepancy may stem from the fact many straight-passing bisexuals don't feel it's necessary to tell anyone. Researchers found that only 28% of bisexuals let their friends and families know about their sexual orientation, compared to 71% of lesbians and 77% of gay men. That said, bisexual people are far less likely to come out than other members of the LGBT community, according to a 2017 Pew Research Center survey. "And then eventually try to work up the courage to announce themselves." "LGBTQ+ people have to first identify themselves privately in a world that continues to tell them that people like them are not welcome," Nate Warden, the founder of Coming Out, an open source platform for sharing stories about coming out, previously told Bustle. Not to mention, coming out is a process - and one that's rarely as simple as posting a single video on TikTok. Of course, sharing "Sweater Weather" lyrics may not be a viable or safe option for everyone. Girl in red singer Marie Ulven writes about being queer, penning songs like "I Wanna Be Your Girlfriend." But since none of the five members of The Neighborhood are openly queer, and their songs aren't explicitly about being bi, you might be wondering - of all the songs in the world, why is "Sweater Weather" TikTok's bi anthem? A video or a comment including the lyrics or a hashtag (like #girlinred) can be seen as a cheeky wink to fellow bisexuals and lesbians - or as a coming-out message. The same thing is happening with the girl in red song "girls," which has been dubbed by fans as an official lesbian anthem.īoth songs are widely used as a code. According to Unpublished Magazine, an online zine for emerging writers, other users have been posting the lyrics in comments sections, or sharing videos of themselves singing the lyrics, to identify as part of the bisexual community. Influencers like Nessa Barrett, Anna Shumate, and James Wright are even using "Sweater Weather" to come out as bi on TikTok, to the applause of their massive followings.īut they're definitely not the only ones. The Neighbourhood's "Sweater Weather," a super catchy track that came out in 2013, is now making a comeback on TikTok - as the app's certified bisexual anthem.